AMOG Battles, Ruskie Douche & Success Barriers AKA Kill Your Inner Chode
I’m surprised I am still conscious from this past weekend. This weekend was a bit of adventure of self discovery. Thursday was a bit uneventful, I hung out a little with Martyr which I had not seen for a while. Opened a few sets and built attraction but went home with wood. I blamed it on Thursday and how I tend to be rusty on Thursday nights.
Friday turned out to be the mother of all days this weekend. Fred canceled which left me a little blue. We get to Plunge and soon discover that the genie is out of the bottle, the place is swarmed with PUA’s. Sure allot of our buddies like Distant Light, Summa, and Adonis are there but there are allot of aggressive chodes walking around and worst of all Ruskie Douche had hit Plunge. Ruskie Douche is a PUA I met a while back, Raven and I got stuck with him for an evening. At first he seemed cool but as the night wore on so did he on our nerves. He is very arrogant and annoying not to mention obnoxious. He has good attraction game but is needy as fuck and also outcome orientated.
Anyway Ruskie Douche is at plunge and I have always kept myself civil around him. I don’t like to be a dick if I don’t have to. I may not like Ruskie Douche but other than being an ass he never gave me reason to hate the guy. Well tonight he would.
Two women walked into plunge a blond and brunet. Both were very hot. Every chode froze to stare at them. Every woman studied them as a potential threat. The blond scanned the room with no expression, she was a shark. You could tell she knew what she was doing. She had her blackberry in her hands and a list of numbers that ended in the square root of pie. The brunet smiled. She knew she was hot, she knew the power she had but she got no satisfaction from it. She was made of social steel and would not fall apart at the sight of a neg. These were She-Wolves running in a pair, cutting through the club like a hot knife through butter (cliché i know), they owned this club.
Distant Light approached and engaged them for a while but ejected. Oh well, I walked around and did some quick sets while the She-Wolves were being flocked. Did a few sets, got blown out a bit, choded around the club then I saw the She-Wolves being talked to by two older business type chodes. The blond was bored. She walked around looking at the view. Without thinking I went over and said.
“Okay we need to fix this.”
“What?”
“Dude you look so fucking bored”
She chuckles and were off. I just basically interrogate the poor girl. Turns out shes from LA and is a student. I’m in rapport hell. I don’t know where this is going and I don’t see any reaction from this girl other than just talking. I want to jump off the balcony. Then suddenly…
“Ey! Iz diz Gurl from L.A?!” I hear from behind me in a Russian accent.
WTF? What the hell is wrong with Ruskie Douche! Why would anyone try to come into a single set? I turn and give me the Penance Stare “YEAH SHE IS!!” I shout at him annoyed and turn my back to him to continue my conversation with the blond who smirks.
I am then introduced to the other she wolf. Her name is Taylor and it turns out shes a sweet heart. I wind up blowing out the two older chodes. Taylor interrogates me, looking back she actually was subtly shit testing me. By asking me who i liked musically and then saying she hated that band to see if I would change my opinion. The blond on the other hand tries to get my attention and even asks me if I’m gay. I give a weird look like “uh no”. Oh I just thought so cause your so stylish she replies with her monotone voice. I fucked up I think. I talk to Taylor and find out her dad wrote the book Timeline that was made into a movie. I was pretty unimpressed since I hate Paul Walker (seriously what is up with this man and the word Bro, he uses it like every 20 seconds!).
Anyway I decide to eject when the blond grabs my arm and says “where are you going?”, I’m thrown by this I honestly was blind in this set. These girls are from L.A they are pro’s in the social world. I put way to much value in them, essentially I blinded myself. I tell her I’m going to find my friends and she pouts then she goes in for the kiss. Thinking shes going for the cheek, I give it to her. She was going for the fucking mouth.
NOOOOOOOooooooooooo!!!! I scream in my head.
I try to kiss her on the mouth. I get the cheek. Its just becomes a cluster fuck goodbye. I wind up getting her number though. As soon as I turn Ruskie Douche jumps in, he was being a vulture while I was in set. He goes straight for Taylor.
As I’m walking I bump into Distant Light. He tells me Ruskie Douche jumped into his set and tooled him. Thats it, I have had it I think to myself, this bastard is going down. As if like magic suddenly The Judge appears with Golden.
The Imperial March is playing as they walk. They are dressed in black. They are lords of the cock, I can feel their intensity of their dark and forbidden powers from 5 feet away. Lights seem to dim as they walk by. Golden immediately turns to me and his eyes are on fire with intent, I feel the chode inside me scream in fear. He tells me to go back in the she-wolf set, my ego screams in protest. But then I get a dark and devilish idea. I grab The Judge and introduce him to Taylor. I see Ruskie Douche give a face of terror. As I walk by, he grabs me and and whispers in my ear “I HATE You! Why did you bring him into my set?”.
I give him a confused look. At this point Golden swoops in and pulls us both away. Golden tells Ruskie to leave him alone that its his set. Ruskie Douche almost starts to cry. “Nooooooooooo Itz MY SET!!!”.
Golden laughs in his face and says “Not anymore dude!”
Ruskie is pissed and jumps back into the set. Taylor gives me a look saying “Oh no not this guy again” and begin to man handle The Judge. The Judge is doing pretty well against this guy but hes like kamikaze hes wrecking the set and himself. Taylor gives me this look of “What the fuck is going on?” and “Man this is lame”. Then Ruskie Douche does a move I have never seen anyone do, he grabs The Judges dick! The Judge pushes back Ruskie Douche and tells him politely not to touch him. A few minutes later The Judge ejects because Ruskie Douche whispers in his ear to please leave “his” set. The Judge felt pity for him and left.
Ruskie didn’t learn his lesson because he later wrecked both Golden’s set and Steve’s set, he spent the rest of the night stalking Taylor and trying to AMOG guys.
The Judge tried to make me AMOG him by telling me to pull Taylor away but I didn’t have the conviction when I tried so I was denied and wound up looking pretty chode. Some other guys then swooped in and were all over Taylor and the blond (one guy even got on the floor to talk to the blond since she was crouched over on her phone…Jesus that was pretty needy).
I then lost a make out with a girl because she was drunk and I went chode. This chick is all over me hugging me, kissing my cheek, dancing for me and I let her go because he friend was sober and I didn’t want to seem like a creep. Fucking moron.
That night the Judge gave me a talk about how you need to be polarizing in sets. How you need to truly not give a shit and just be intense. Her later disappeared like Obi-One after he said this. I suddenly felt a wind of inspiration and just began to approach like crazy, and really direct. One girl was this hottie Asian who I went from telling her she was adorable to just being flat out sexy. I could tell that at points she was uncomfortable with my frankness but I just didn’t care and wound up flipping it and getting her number. I then got a kiss from a hottie who was being dragged around by her friend.
By the end Raven and I walked home, I remember Raven telling me that is was a bad night because once again he was going home with wood. I told him that he was crazy because he made out with a girl that night. I have now come to see allot of Ravens points.
The next day I am online just farting around thinking about the night before when I decide to look up Taylors dad who wrote the book Timeline, I type it in and this is the name that pops up.
Michael Crichton
Wait, Taylors dad is Michael Crichton? The Michael Crichton? They guy who wrote Jurassic Park?!I do a Google image search and find the following pictures of Taylor
(by the way she looks even better now…she got some work done plus she died her hair)
Holy mother of god!
Saturday I wound up hanging out with Fred and Caramel. I was happy that they got along and we wound up sarging in Plunge for a bit. I wound up being bought a drink by a girl and kissed. The chick was a little weird though, she would go from aggressive to passive on a drop of a dime. I wound up number closing her but I don’t know if I will call her. Anyway I decide to by her a drink since she got me one. While I’m at the bar, Ruskie Douche walks in and sees me. He sarcastically bows and says “Why hello Warlock! Next time you pull shit with me, you say it to my face!” and starts to walk off. I tell him “Whatever dude” and “Theres no need to be an asshole” He hesitates and I think he debated on whether to pursue the situation or not, he chose the latter.
The rest of the night was pretty uneventful, we hung out with Saad and Achilles at Sutton Place were the womens bitch shields were sky high. The sarging at Sutton and the surrounding bars made me realize how in my comfort zone I am. I’m so used to being in Plunge where the women are blatantly there to be gamed that if you put me in a bar that is loud, crowded and full of chodes I will stall out. Thats complete bullshit on my part. I need to be able to sarge anywhere. I cant be intimidated anymore. I need to get used to any environment.
Sunday turned into a complete disaster. Caramel was more whinny than usual. I have decided to ban her from sarging for a while due to her behavior. Raven wound up bailing early in the night to meet up with a Brazilian girl (cant blame the guy, hes really getting his shit together) and Martyr who met up with us, decided to invite The Undertaker out even though he knows that neither Caramel or I like spending any time with him.
I was so in my head that I was not approaching. I did one set and it went really well. But turns out the girl was with her boyfriend. When Martyr said he was inviting The Undertaker I bailed on them. Only to realize that I was now alone and unable to approach. Why is that? Why do I need the baby blanket of a wing even if I approach alone. I tried calling everyone I knew but no one would come out. I wandered the streets of meatpacking, thinking about my game. I actually met up with Caramel and we hit a dinner. Then called it a night (funny turned out that Mystery and Lovedrop eventually went to Plunge later that night)
I realized that I have been choding out in my game. I have not been going for the close. I have hit a success barrier. My mind is freaking out because it does not like change and I am changing my life. I realize this because I am not really going for the close. I am going to the same place over and over. I still care about what other people think of me.
This is unacceptable.
This all came to a head on Monday while I read The Judges 30 day challenge thread. I felt the power and nimbus oozing off this page. I felt the furry or Berserker Rage. I was furious at myself for being a chode, for allowing my inner chode to still live. I must destroy it. I need to push sets to the limit. I need to get up in girls grill. I need to say insane stuff that will either shock or amaze. I called Golden and like a madman recounted my revelation my new mission of getting drinks thrown at me and punches to my face. I was a crazed madman drunk with furry.
Golden told me that I need to step up, everything else is in place. I just need to step up and take what I want.
I spoke to Raven and we have decided to upgrade to 4 nights a week. Jesus, God help NYC….
Level Up!
So lets talk about my night out on Saturday. I’ve been meaning to write about it because it was a very important night to me and my game. I’m going to try to avoid getting too analytical because in telling this story to my friends I have found that I have the bad habit of getting caught up in the semantics of it. So I will try to be bear bones about it but not being to robotical about it. Wish me luck…
I arrived at plunge with Raven and Caramel with the intention of trying to be myself in set. No more games or personas. I was not going to be Mr. Sex Guy or Goof ball High Energy Warlock, I would just be plain old David. But I soon realized this would be harder than I thought most sets I did I found myself falling back into the Warlock identity or being to invested in what they thought I was soon blown out. One memorable blow out was when I asked a chubby girl what she did and she said she was a model to which I sarcastically replied yeah right. Turns out she was a plus sized model. Ouch.
I was in my head and soon stopped approaching, I told a new PUA I met called Adonis about my dilemma. I’m pretty positive Adonis will soon be pulling ass like crazy, he just needs to practice a bit to get himself calibrated. Sometimes he comes off as obnoxious to people or so I’ve been told. Anyway Adonis soon told me to open anything and pointed to a girl walking in my direction.
So I reached over and tapped this girl on the shoulder.
“Hey who are you?” I stated. She smiled and told me her name to which i responded that I thought she was adorable and loved her dimples (I touched her cheeks at this point). She responded at how she had noticed me since I walked in because she loved my fedora. We talked a bit and she told me she had to get back to her brother since she was celebrating his birthday turns out she was in from Canada. I thought to myself at this point “oh well this set wont go anywhere” I ejected. As I did she told me she would shake my hand but she was holding two drinks, so i said i would kiss her on cheek which i did one and then the other. Then I went for an Eskimo and smack she had kissed me on the lips! She smiled and said that’s the best she could offer and walked away leaving me shocked!
So much for bare details huh guys? Anyway I wanted to run over and make out with her there but i didn’t want to come off needy or horny. So as I was walking around I spotted her alone and sarged her up. I kinoed her and she responded with equal kino, then her brother came and I befriended him but I could not figure out how to get the brother out of the equation. Enter Caramel who distracted the brother! So as they talked, I talked to my girl and tried to kiss her. To which she told me she had a boyfriend with a sly smile and denied my kisses. I kept trying and trying but then I stopped myself, I felt that was being to needy. Hmm she needs isolation I thought. I saw her drink was empty, and proceeded to act as waiter (screw it if I had to buy drinks I did not care). I lead her to the bar holding her hand (ha first lead). Isolated her and boom I was soon making out with her.
Then she stopped me.
“Oh god, your so amazing, and I like this so much but I have a boyfriend and I have to respect that” she said as she was rubbing my chest. This floored me. This chick was really into me. And she was into me for me! This girl used to be a manager, she managed Avril Lavine and other hot bands. She was hot, she made more money in a month than I made in a year, she traveled and hung out with celebrities and she though I was the most amazing man in that club! And I didn’t get this from her by playing games or pushing buttons, I got it for putting myself out there.
We stopped making out. I will be honest I started to get a little chode. I got hooked on the state all this had given my ego. I just started enjoying her company. She went to the bathroom leaving us hanging out with her brother, 20 minutes later she came back but the bubble had long broken. I think in those 20 minutes it sunk in that she had just cheated on her boyfriend. I soon ejected and Caramel and I called it a night.
Funny thing while I was waiting for her I had a few girls come up to open me. One was a insanely hot blond I mean this chick could have been a freaking model and I blew her out because I didn’t want the Canadians brother seeing me talk to another girl and tell his sister she had just been used by a player.
I cared about her feelings and I cared about her. I was cherishing in the night. I would never see this girl again and I would cherish her in the night always.
As I walked back to my train I wondered If I was made for this. Would every girl I made out with have this effect on me. Would I be heart broken once they were gone? Would I have days where I missed them? Would I sit in my bed at night wondering if they thought of me?
I didn’t want to go through that every time i went out! I didn’t want to get my state and my good feelings from a girl that should come from me. I have reached a new level and found deeper things about myself both good and bad. Man what an amazing night…
To Thy Self Always Be True…
God what a weekend! I have to say that this weekend was probably the most educational ones I have ever had plus I feel like I have reached a new level. Now allot of you will probably think, awesome I cant wait to reach that next level in my “game”. This is definitely the case I do feel a sense of joy but with each new level comes new problems that you have never noticed before.
Friday was probably one of the more frustrating days I had that week. Don’t get me wrong I still had a blast. Whenever Fred is around having fun is a given. We all hit up sets, Fred opened quite a few, I noticed that he does have AA but its funny because its not your normal type of AA. Fred has loopholes. For example if I point out a set that is a few feet away from him, Fred will jump in. However If I point out a set across the room or a distance where Fred will be by himself for even a few seconds he will stall himself out. I also noticed that you cant prep Fred for a set or else he will stall himself out. Hes running on pure instinct.
This is great for someone who has been in the game for only two months. I remember in my first two months I would approach maybe 3 sets (if I was lucky) and I couldn’t even hold a conversation. Fred got a insanely hot Brazilian to ask him for his number! I almost feel sorry for women when he starts to grow more and more in his “game”.
And back to me. Well the problem I was having on Friday was that I was forcing the sexual intent. I was trying to be Mr. Sex Guy which did not work at all. I mean if you new me you would think this was the funniest shit in the world. Heres the deal, I hate porn. I don’t like to see ejaculations or extreme close ups on vagina’s. I hate seeing shots other dudes units going into her love tunnel. Don’t like the close ups some of these directors have where your getting a shot of the dudes ass (what is up with that?). I actually get off to Cinemax porn. Yes I am into Skinemax.
So I kept pushing sexual intent in my interactions and it came off as needy or just weird. I ruined a kiss close with a girl by trying to kiss her in front of her friend. She was clearly into me but after that it fizzled out, I came off as a guy who wanted something from her instead of the cute guy who could have been fun.
Then came the worse point of the night when after hearing Steve (another PUA we know) talk about how you had to go sexual, I tried to sarge a cougar that was in a set of Love Pirates. I tried to push the kino very hard and tried to grab and kiss her but all that served was to get both L.P and I blown the fuck out. L.P was pretty ticked off, turns out he was sarging both girls to have a double make out and possibly a threesome.
I realized that night that I was trying way to hard. I was trying to be something I wasn’t. I was trying to be Mr. Sex Guy and thats L.P’s niche not mine. I decided the next night that I would just try to be me in every set the next night.
But that turned out to be harder than expected…
Learning Games
Last night Raven and I hit Plunge, I knew the crowd would suck when we got in with no hassle whatsoever for not having girls. I figured allot of folks stayed in due to the weather (scattered thunderstorms…please I survived 3 hurricanes bitches) and I was right, it was pretty dead although as the night progressed a few nice looking girls walked in.
I was very stifled. I have been lately on Thursdays, I think its because I have been listening allot to Tyler speak on inner game and psychology which I find fascinating but tends to get in my head. I did not approach once last night, I just didn’t feel like it, call it AA or laziness I just was very bleh. When I’m in state this does not happen. I have no fear. I jump into set after set and I’m on. Still it was Thursday what like to call Experimentation Day or Fuck Up Day, were everything can go wrong its allowed hell its encouraged.
Yesterday could have been seen as chode by my part due to my lack of opening but I learned allot. I observed Jason’s first set in the night and man I read her like a book! I could tell she was into him due to her body language and facials expression. She kept leaning in to talk to him, getting her face very close. She laughed and smiled but I could also tell something else. I could tell she was waiting for him to escalate the set. He kept doing the purposeless hand of doom by just touching her shoulder whenever she kino touched her. I saw the interaction start very strong and then I saw her face change and it was like she screamed “This guy wont touch me! Hes a pussy” Not that Raven’s a pussy, because he is far from it but he showed lack of intent.
The set soon ended afterwards.
Our other set proved to be the most educational. Raven opened a “throw away” two set of two women who he found unattractive. Well it hooks and I wing him, quite naturally frankly. Our winging dynamic is getting pretty good we dont use the stupid “have your seen Michele?” line or the “whos the good girl” crap, I usually go up to him and ask him if he wants a drink while hes in set (something ANYONE would do) and he brings me in, with his body language he indicates to me who his target is.
I’m getting distracted from my lesson. Heres what happened. My girl in the set at first was a little resistant to me. It seemed at first like she didn’t want to talk, so i kept talking making jokes (very low key mind you) and little by little she opened up. Next thing I know, I learned that one of her x’s is now a porn star, her other x is a Mexican who is in jail, she was from LA and move here, she likes pickles and stripper name would be Princess Mckingly. All through out this i kept trying to kino but the closer i got to her the more she would move away. It was funny, it was like we were doing a dance.
Now if it wasn’t for Jason I would have ejected from that set once I started getting kino resistance but heres the funny thing. I decided to just be myself, I made her laugh,we talked and when we merged back with Jasons set, we even did some role playing. We kept getting divorced, married, and wound up as fuck buddies. By plowing I was changing the course of the interaction, I even got offered a drink by her. Toward the end I number closed and realized why I had such a hard time with her.
She was hurt before, her x boyfriend now in jail a two year relationship down the drain. To face the possibility of going down that road again had left her paranoid. She liked me, both Jason and I could tell but she was scared and tried to dissuade me. To which I disregarded her protests of being older than me. I finally looked her dead in the eye and said “I just want to enjoy your company”. I got the number and gave her a kiss on both cheeks and I felt a sexual energy when I did that, I was gentle and touched her face as I kissed her cheeks and squeezed her arm good bye.
Its interactions like this that make me love the game. When you learn something in your set and grow as a person. When you make a real connection with someone and all the bullshit and games just fall away.
This is why I hate routines. Routines is all about pushing buttons and manipulation. Its all about acting one way and meaning something else. Those PUA’s who get good at routines are just button pushers. Do they have real connections with women? Maybe but not after a bit of time.
Newbies also get fucked by routines. I cant tell you how many interactions I screwed up because I was worried what my action would say, all my interactions had a vibe of us vs them. Just last week a member on the forum was talking about how he said no to a date with a woman who’s company he truly enjoyed to go out with one who he didn’t know because he didn’t want to seem to eager to spend time with the girl who he had an interest in. He didn’t want to loose value in her eyes so he said no. Then it blew up in his face when he saw her that night holding hands with another guy.
Another PUA I know waved over a girl he liked at a bar, she smiled and waved him over. For about a minute they had a battle of who should come over before she just turned her back to him to talk to her friends. I then told him he should go over to talk to her (because she clearly liked him) he told me he couldn’t because if he went over then it would look like he was to eager because he lost the waving over battle.
I looked at him like he was an idiot, walked over tapped the girl and said
“Have you met my friend? OMG! You have to meet this guy hes so cool”
I dragged her over to him and introduced them
DONE!
Heres my point, guys if you like something then fucking go for it. Stop giving a crap if you “look needy” or “show to much interest” just go over and take what you want. If I like a girl and she doesn’t respond to my phone calls, Ill text her if that doesn’t work ill e-mail her and then ill start the whole process again. I don’t care if she tells me to fuck off at least I know I pushed it and went for what I wanted. The only way your needy is if you look at the girl as being above you, if you say this woman is out of my league, she has more value than me, ect. Thats fucking needy but if you honestly like the woman and know that no matter what type of reaction you have whether she squeals for joy at your voice or tells you to fuck off, your mood stays the same because deep down you know that tomorrow is another day filled with women who are equally cool if not more so than this girl.
Thats the abundance mentality. Abundance mentality doesn’t sound like “I’m the shit! I banged 5 girls! Fuck this bitch! Shes missing out yo!”. No it sounds like this “Girls come and go, if this one leaves then she leaves but there will always be another to take her place”
Kiss and Tell
Last night I hit plunge with Raven and bumped into every PUA and instructor in the east coast area. The RSD boys from the forum where there, Fader and his crew from Mystery Method where there and both Saad and Alex were running bootcamps.
To be honest guys I thought I would have a chode night, I was not approaching, I was a chode in front of Alex (should have treated him like any other guy but still have that bad habit of giving instructors more value), was getting weird looks. Then as the night progressed I just started letting go, almost made out with a very hot Russian cougar but she had her own drama going on and her orbiter came in and I honestly thought I was going to see an actually fist fight between them.
One True Matt, Raven and I were just laid back enjoying the Jerry Springer episode unfold in front of us. When they left to make their drama mobile. I opened a hot cougar and her friend. I was kinoing like crazy. Raven came in and locked into my target but I didn’t care so i pawned her off on him while i sarged the friend, turns out the girl was a lesbian but luckily lesbians are Warlocks best friends and we were chilling just hanging out and cracking jokes.
Raven makes out with his target when suddenly midget HB cougar interrupts him makes a joke and his target leaves cracking up. Raven and I chilled and start busting on this girl. At this point something weird happens, I just get sexual. I’m not horny or needy but I’m talking about sex LIKE ITS NOT A BIG DEAL in fact like its funny. Suddenly were telling this girl she wants to have a Asian and Latino sandwich. I kind of ignore her to tell Jason how it really sucks when a woman doesn’t know how to kiss.
“Why are you a good kisser?” she asks.
I nod and give her a “what are you stupid? of course” look
“Let me show you”
I grab her by the back of the head.
BOOM MASSIVE MAKE OUT!
She says im a good kisser, I shrug, she tells me shes married, shows me the ring. I shrug and tell her that she kisses like a married woman. She asks me what that means I tell her that she kisses like she wants more. She laughs and asks what else i could tell from her kiss. I call her a slow burn, that she starts out all sweet in bed and then suddenly the claws come out out and I imitate a lion and roar and I act like the guy in her bed scream “OH MY GOD! JESUS CHRIST” Then proceed to act out being attacked by her.
She almost pees herself laughing.
But she leaves because she has ADD.
And thats great, I’m on a high. Last set of the night. I didn’t think I would have had such an experience but I plowed, I pushed my comfort zone, I would have stayed and sarged but sadly it was time to put on my glasses and become Clark Kent but you know what? Once that bell rings and we clock out my duty calls.
Push It! Push It Real Good!
Last night was experimentation day and even though I was not in state I forced myself to open sets and push my comfort zones. There are allot of reasons why I had problems achieving state last night. The most common one is being outcome dependent. I think it all stems with the ridiculous idea that I have in my head that I will somehow magically find a new twist or turn that will take me to the next level in my game.
This is a bad idea to have, game tends to evolve naturally for me over time. Even the best in this took months or years to get to true mastery. I tend to see guys like Fred and Rudey who took boot camps and suddenly are pulling and get angry at myself for not being better. But lets be honest each of them can tell me a million reasons why they evolved and it had nothing to do with a magic pill or new trick or line.
Its all about pushing your comfort zone. How bad do you want it? Can you go through the pain of being in a set where the women clearly don’t want you there? Can you not flinch when a woman tells you fuck off? When set after set gives you the Quasimodo face? Can you go up to a 10 and start a conversation? Can you stay unaffected?
I learned this the hard way with Joe D’s boot camp. I threw a pity party for myself, I had Joe ream me out at the bar, I had women look at me with disgust and men laugh or ignore me. I wanted to cry, I wanted to run away, I wanted to go back to the days of cinemax porn and video games.
But I got up the next day and went back out there. And you cant really ask for more.
Every time I go out, I expect to push myself and jump into the waters of social pressure. The problem is that I am my worst critic and always fall short of my goals.
Last night…
1)I opened a 2 set, which required me to keep two women engaged, defend myself against shit test galore, a mother hen and actually had a girl stay and talk to me effectively squashing a pull away. So think about that for a minute, I had such high value that a woman ignored her friends who were trying to pull her away. Of course she still left because I didn’t stack forward, but thats a first!
2)I had a woman by me a drink…another first
3)I actually opened a 9, made her laugh and reopened her a little later on
4)I went direct with a woman
5)I was never blown out with any approach. I just ejected because the energy fizzled out due to me not being in state and not escalating
Oh and I did not use one magic trick.
These are all things I have never done before or positive things. But yet I wanted to do more. I wanted to go sexual, I wanted to pull, I wanted to kiss, to dominate, to have my sexual intent to be felt, etc. I am not satisfied, I always want more which is my drive. Question is, is this a merit of mine or a flaw? I guess it depends on how I feel at the end of the night.
Ugly Duckling No More!
Yesterday was experimentation day, once again I learned so much. I tend to do on those days. Raven and I hit Plunge after once again we were not let into Budah Bar. Man those bouncers just hate our guts, this time they just told us they were only doing reservations and didn’t even look at the list.
I honestly don’t know why they make such a big deal. I mean the place is tiny as hell, over priced and has crappy music. The only reason Raven and I even try to go in is that we like it as a warm up spot because its usually has some very high quality targets and there seems to be very little PUA’s (growing problem in the club scene).
We hit Plunge and did some sets. It took us a little while to warm up but I noticed a few things.
1) Women are really starting to notice me or maybe I am finally noticing that women are noticing me. Quite a few women were giving me warm smiles. I even opened one or two and they were very warm to me.
2) AA is not completely gone but thankfully its nothing like it used to be and once I get a few sets under my best its completely gone. Also my early sets hook but I tend to let them fizzle art early in the night if I haven’t warmed up.
3) Once again my theory about the less attractive girl the more of a chip she has on her shoulder and harder she is to sarge. We got a snarky blow out from the chodier of a two set. We are also noticing how chody girls act in a club, they hold their drinks up their chests, stare at each other waiting for guys to approach, look at the ground nervously, have trust issues when you compliment them, etc.
My plan for that night was to try to be myself in set, Although its not like a completely different personality in set, I do tend to fall into dancing monkey magic comedian guy. So I wanted to do something Fred recommended and be a bit more real. I think I completely failed at that because once again In found myself doing the secret handshake and wound up testing a new magic trick I call it:
The Flaming Heart of Desire.
Its a flashy piece literally, I use fire and its very cool. But its going to go lame the minute I get bored doing it. Once again I cant depend on tricks to get through my set, its a crutch and I’m really not capitalizing it correctly.
Anyway after I do this, a PUA comes up to me while I am in heavy kino with my target, at first it was working out we started doing role play. She was into it (although I will never forgive myself for not doing the whole marriage rpg) but then this dude tells me that hes been in magic for 2 years. I was like cool then he goes and says “Oh let me guess you got into after you read THE GAME” and he said with emphasis on it then turned and left.
This girl got pretty weirded out, luckily I defused it but it almost wrecked my set. But I busted my set when I started a joke about how Raven and I met in prison. It started out funny but I took it dark and in the middle of the stupid joke I thought “Oh no I’m about to fuck myself over here”. Wow what a break in the vibe.
I’ll go into the very funny about what happened to Raven and I when we met Matadors “BFF” in another post. But for now I want to talk about what I learned that night.
Heres the deal guys. I’m a good looking guy. I’m not bragging or trying to be funny, I’m serious when I say this. It took me a long as time to realize I was cute and people had told me I was a good looking guy in a matter of fact way but I never really bought it. But last night I just realized I’m a handsome guy. Women dig my look they want to fuck me, I just keep fucking it up. All I have to do is stop doing the things that screw me up and I should be good.
Everybody thinks being handsome means that women constantly throw themselves at you. Well that only happens if you believe you are handsome. A negative mentality about your looks can seriously hamper for enjoying those rock star looks. I think looks are really 20% physical appearance and 80% mental confidence. Well right now I feel I’m 40% physical and 60% mental confidence. The numbers are going up guys.
Texting With Style
Me: I have a very naugthy question to ask you, ready?
Her: LOL it better not be naughty but im ready! GO!
Me: What color socks are you wearing? ;-P
Her: LOL white. I can take a pic of them for you 
Me: Oh baby your turning me on
Her: Maybe tim ill wear some striped ones for u
Me: Stop it! Dont say it if you dont mean it, dont play with my emotions
Her: And then the following day, a sheer nude pair. u like that baby?
Me: Oh dady like, dady like
Her: LOL u’s a fool, hows your day flowing?
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Much better than last time, special thanks to Rudey for the tip. Man got to keep that sexual intent flowing, im getting better at it, but I shouldnt make it a joke.
Experimentation Day #1
So I have officially decided to go out 3 days a week, Thursday, Friday and Saturday Since Thursday will be a night were I tend to go home early due to work the next day (I turn into a pumpkin at 1am) I have decided to make Thursday experimentation day. Basically its the day to try things and get blown out, in fact getting blown out is a plus because you are adapting to social conditioning.
I wanted to go out guns blazing on Thursday but I found myself not in state last night and even though all my sets hooked last night, I did spend the early part of the night choding out a bit. I want to do like 30 approaches like they do in boot camp and really push my comfort levels, but I find myself only doing small baby steps which is fine but I guess I’m stugeling between my fear and gun ho mentality which creates a small back lash.
I do consider Experimentation Day a success, I made a point of speaking to 8’s and up. I pushed Raven into a set of Australian models. He had said he wanted to approach hot women and then tried to convince me to pass up the 9’s to go for 7’s. I looked at him dead serious and told him he was not going to open those 9’s that I would not allow him to open the 7’s. Well he did and wow those girls were smoking and the sweetest girls in the world. I want a Aussie girlfriend now
We wound up getting their face book because it would have been a waste to get their number and we failed to befriend the male friend who pulled them away from us and bounced them out of budah bar. Immediately afterwards we turned and opened a two set of 7’s who started throwing shit tests galore at us, one kept telling me I was gay and I started acting all flamboyant because I actually thought she was kidding then I realized she was tooling me and I looked at Raven and gave him the code of “these girls are giving us shit tests because their not very hot, lame” so we ejected.
We then hit Plunge for the rest of the night where we did a few more approaches but then got sidetracked talking to other PUA’s. I really need to put my foot down and just sarge instead of being polite and continuing the conversation as the hot sets walk past me. I wound up opening a very hot Ukrainian model and made her laugh so much I got her number. Shes a bit of a bimbo to be honest with you which is a turn off but I might call her. I also strangely enough bumped into Sandra Oh from Grey’s Anatomy.
Only in New York right? I know I said keep your value but fucking a! I couldn’t go up and talk to her, which shows my flaws in my inner game i need to work on. I was star stuck. I’m lucky I didn’t find her attractive and never did because i probably would been freaking out.
Things I have learned from experimentation day
1) Girls who rate an 8 and up are really easier to open and possibly close. They don’t give you shit tests as much or tool you. As long as your not intimidated by them and don’t be a slime ball then you should be good.
2) Girls who rate bellow an 8 tend to be more insecure and give allot of shit tests. They tend to be a bit too try hard in always saying “I’m hot! Really I’m hot! Do you see?” This is something that can really be exploited. I think I’m going to start playing around with maybe being brutally honest like saying something like “Seriously why are you so insecure?” after they throw another shit test at me.
3) Women are really starting to form paterns. I’m starting to see that they can be categorized Ill probably be posting my thoughts a bit more on that.
4) I am seriously going to start weeding out the magic tricks from my game. Its so fucking lame. I really only use it when I seriously run out of things to say in set. Its like my desperate attempt to break glass in case of emergency bit. And its so trying for rapport it makes me sick.
5) I am not getting into state lately, this is because I am focusing on what the result of a set would be and I am thinking a bit to take as much information in as possible. Not that I fear blow outs, in fact i welcome them its just that I only get into state when I truly don’t care if a set goes good or bad. Right now I actually care about the result due to curiosity I have decided to make Saturday of my sarge The Day Of The Ultimate Nullifier! So what is the Ultimate Nuliffier? Its when you truly don’t give a flying fuck what anyone thinks of you. It nullifies AA, outcome dependency, EVERYTHING. Basically its a fancy word for saying your having a good time with your buds and meeting women.
Getting My Creep On…
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RSD has a challenge in the flawless natural method. I call it The Trials Of The Natural. Basically its a 10 day challenge, not a big deal like some of these other challenges where guys are asked to commit a month or more.
First 5 days are all about woo, you should do exercises to get your woo up like the “cheers” exercise or Alex’s Eyes of Glory. A suggested opener is “Hi I’m _______”
I tend to have woo pretty much down. I have embraced my inner goof ball and I am normally bouncing off the walls. A good recipe for woo is this
Take a 5 or 6 hour energy drink
When you feel the kick of it wear off (usually half an hour to an hour) follow it up with a red bull
And let go of your outcome.
That last one is key, if you give a shit about doing well and getting ___ number of approaches under your belt, then your done.
I don’t even count my approaches anymore. Looking back they range from 7 to 10 a night, this is very little the reason why is because they all last a rather long time, especially when I’m winging Raven who sometimes spends over an hour in his set. Rule of the universe, sets hook when you don’t need anything from them. Notice i said need rather than want, there is a big difference between those words.
The last 5 days of the challenge is called “Getting Your Creep On”. This is all about bringing out your core sexual intent which is a huge sticking point for me. The mission? Go for the make out with every single girl you talk to, the recommended opener is “Hi guys, I’m sad, I need a kiss”.
Its this section of the challenge that I feared the most. I am so used to turning off the sex drive when I speak to women, because for years I was treated badly by women and men in my social circles for being seen as a “perv” which is quite funny when you think about it considering that I don’t even have real porn (I watch cinemax soft core porn) and I’m the type of person to keep my sexual escapades pretty discrete
After talking to Rudey about it, he motivated me to just go for it. So on Saturday I treated every action into an experiment. I tried to make out with almost every girl I spoke to. I pushed my sets even when I felt the energy start to die. I got rejected and just kept going. It was glorious.
A couple of things I learned…
1) Girls don’t give a shit about being touched as long as it doesn’t come from a place of horniness or neediness
2) Don’t ever fall for a girls frame, I remember two Holland girls claiming that they were good girls only to see them an hour later dirty dancing with two chodes
3) The worst rejection I got for going for the make out was “Thats not going to happen” other were “I don’t do that” or ” What are you doing” and of course moving the head or pulling their head back. So my fears of getting slapped, screamed at or having some friend or hidden boyfriend kicked my ass were unfounded.
I will say this though at first In tried to deny that I was trying to kiss them which was lame, toward the end though I just said that “I was going for the moment” which got some laughs. Also girls think Eskimo kisses are hysterical.
Another thing I realized was how easy girls are to be compliant. I used the claw on a girl I literally met 2 minutes before and she didn’t give a shit, she did not resist. I also used my tone to get a girls attention and waved her over to me, I was shocked at how easy it was to get her to come over with just a hey and wave.
I even got a number close (from that girl who’s text I posted) which was a solid one. This was an excellent night, I pushed myself and learned new things. I cant wait till tonight when I begin a new set of experimentation
